Perfect Imperfections

Today I want to talk about perfection. Or imperfection? Is perfection even possible ?

Or are we chasing something we’ll never have? What is it, that makes us wanting to be perfect?

I guess that people put a lot of pressure on us. People like your parents, your friends, your teachers or your employer. But the person putting the most pressure on yourself and pushing you to perfection is probably yourself. We want to be so perfect and flawless, we want to make everything right, no mistakes aloud. We have high standards, which are probably not so bad, but if you want to climb the Mount Everest as a non-athlete, chances are you’re not going to reach your destination.

„When you’re raised with the believe that perfection is possible it’s very hard to let go of that.“

It is very hard. But realising that you have to let go of the idea of perfection, is in my opinion the first step into the right direction. We need to stop trying being perfect, stop trying to be how others want us to be. We need to start accepting that perfect isn’t a destination, but a journey. If perfection means no mistakes, no fails, no downs, then perfection is impossible. We are humans. Humans make mistakes, they fail and life is very had sometimes. But who says that you can’t make mistakes and still be perfect? You can be perfect, on your own beautiful way. Accepting your flaws and working on yourself, accepting that you don’t have to be perfect to be great can lead you to your own perfection. Be perfectly yourself and not the type of perfection the world wants to see in you. 

Think of what makes you happy. Think of your loved ones. Are they perfect? Probably, to you they are. And it’s the same way around for them. The ones, who really, sincerely love you, think that you are just perfect the way you are, on your in- and outside. And it’s not because they love you, that they think you’re perfect. It is because, in their eyes you’re just perfect and that’s why they love you.

That makes me believe that everyone has his own view of perfection and trying to measure up to a fixed idea of perfection is just not what we’re supposed to do. You can’t make everyone happy and if that’s what you’re trying to do, you’re going to have a hard time. So instead, do what you like, be who you want to be, fulfil your dreams and try to accept yourself just the way you are. Eventually, you’ll accept that you imperfections make you perfect.

“You should love yourself as much as the people around love you but sometimes it’s hard to look at yourself that same way.”

That’s so true. Sometimes you feel horrible and worthless. Sometimes you just think that you don’t fit into this world, you feel like as if you’ve failed. We all have been there and we know that it is hard to get out of that deep whole. And than again, it’s hard, but nothing’s impossible. The only way to change it is to believe. Believe that you’re worth the love people are giving you. I believe that it’s our imperfections that make us perfect. It is because we fail sometimes, because we have flaws that characterise our personality, because sometimes we’re depressed and down but still get up and try again, it is because all of this, that not being perfect makes us perfect.

I finish this post with the title of a book, which I think says everything already:

"The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are".

Brené Brown